Did you read the title of this blog post and think 'hell no!'?
Good. I hope so. It means you have at least a decent understanding of BDSM and that being submissive has nothing to do with being weak or less than. It, in fact, means just the opposite. Being a submissive takes courage and a good Dominant knows, understands, and values that.
What I find most interesting however, is that there seems to be a double standard when it comes to BDSM fiction. In the vast majority of books, women take on the role of submissive with the male being the dominant partner. Whether vanilla (non-BDSM) readers or those who live the lifestyle, very few blink an eye at this. When it comes to male submission, however, it's a completely different story.
I received feedback from a blogger earlier this week on my upcoming book, Burning For Her Kiss. She enjoyed the writing and the story, but she rated the story with only two and a half stars. Why? By her own admission, it was because she felt my hero, Drew, was weak and feminine because he chose to submit to a female dominant.
Hopefully this stereotype upsets you as much as it does me.
In the seven years I've been writing BDSM fiction, I've had the opportunity to meet many submissives, male and female. None of them were weak. They all knew what they wanted and were going after it. To me, that's something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
What do you think? Do you view male submission differently than female submission, why or why not?